This is something God helped me to understand with money, and giving in general: he knows all of our thoughts, he knows if we are giving out of love, or with a grudge; not really wanting to. It’s not that you gave someone something, it’s how you gave it. We are to give out of love. It’s better to have, and be able to help a person, than not have, and have to sit and see them suffer. It’s a blessing to be able to have something to give at all, that means he has not stopped blessing you. We could easily be on the other end of the stick, asking for something, but with us having ANYTHING is a blessing. Don’t worry about being used, the word says GOD WILL REVEAL THE COUNSELS OF HEARTS, meaning, he knows what they are doing, just as he knows if we are giving out of love, or with a grudge. The Lord will take it up with that person on judgement day. Until then We are to do our part and love others as we would love ourselves. Give with joy! Pray! Read your word!
1 Corinthians 4
Therefore judge nothing before the time, until the Lord come, who both will bring to light the hidden things of darkness, and will make manifest the counsels of the hearts: and then shall every man have praise of God.
Withhold not good from them to whom it is due, when it is in the power of thine hand to do it.
Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.
2 Corinthians 9:7
7 Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.
9 (as it is written, He hath dispersed abroad; he hath given to the poor:
his righteousness remaineth for ever.
10 Now he that ministereth seed to the sower both minister bread for your food, 10 and multiply your seed sown, and increase the fruits of your righteousness:)
24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.
22 Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.